Today, we would be looking at the several women who has had cervical cancer and who still has. I want you to read and leave your comments and also tell your experience or your advice...Thank you
At this time they were interviewed.......
HEATHER BONYGE
Age: 30
Hometown: Saskatoon
What was your diagnosis? Cervical Cancer
What are your career goals? I would eventually like to
work in a cancer organization, possibly as a counselor or as a
fundraiser organizer. I generally just want to help people.
What is your occupation?Optician
Your Cancer experience:
My beautiful daughter, Brynn, was born on July 29, 2008. My husband and
I had been married for six years, and I had wanted a baby for a long
time. It was the happiest moment of my life (clichéd, I know, but
true!).
Six weeks after she was born, I went for my routine follow-up and pap
test with my gynecologist and went about my life not thinking anything
of it. One month later I got a phone call saying the tests had come back
abnormal, and I needed to have another test done. An appointment was
set up for the following month. Still, I thought nothing of it. I have a
friend who had abnormal cells before, and just had to go have them
removed; I figured mine would be similar.
On November 19 I went for my biopsy and colposcopy, and even the doctor
thought it would turn out as nothing—at worst it would be the HPV virus
which she said would be entirely manageable. On December 19, 2008,
exactly one month later, I got my results. The phone rang—my daughter
was four and a half months old and napping, my husband was at work, and I
was alone. The doctor was incredibly sympathetic, but told me she
didn’t want me to have to wait to come into the office to give me the
news. She just told me over the phone, “You have cervical cancer.” I was
27-years-old.
I acted very in control of the situation on the phone with the doctor. I
mean, what good was it going to do to cry to her? I held it together,
but I started to cry as soon as I got off the phone. I have to be
honest, even though people had said it was nothing, I think I always had
a feeling deep down it was going to turn out to be something—I don’t
know why.
I called my husband immediately, and through tears I told him I had
cancer. He told me he was on his way, and just left work without even
telling them why. He came home, and he held me and I cried.
I already had an action plan that no matter what happened we had to get
rid of it, no matter what it entailed—a hysterectomy, whatever! At
that point we had no idea what stage it was at, or really any idea at
all of what were the options for cervical cancer. The doctor was nice
enough though to give us her direct number so we could talk to her
anytime during the weekend (although later we found out we still had to
go through a secretary who wasn’t as willing to be as accommodating).
I was diagnosed six days before Christmas and 12 days before our trip
to South Africa where our daughter was going to meet her grandparents
for the first time. We had no idea if we would still be able to go.
We told my family that night, and they had no idea any of this was
going on and were completely caught by surprise. Of course they were
supportive, and just as we did, they wanted answers. We made some phone
calls to the doctor, tried to get a few answers, but still felt very in
the dark even after getting off the phone. There wasn’t really anything
we could do until we had the scans, saw the oncologist, and could
determine what stage the cancer was at. In the meantime I could go to
South Africa, enjoy my holiday as it would not delay my treatment since
mostly everyone would be on holidays over Christmas. I was told cervical
cancer generally moves very slowly, so it would not do any harm waiting
a month or so. Of course, this is never what you want to hear, as all
of us wanted this dealt with like yesterday.
We went to South Africa though, surprised my in-laws with a visit from
their first grandchild and then surprised them a few days later with my
diagnosis. They were also devastated, but very supportive. We didn’t
tell anyone else until after I had more answers as to the stage of my
cancer, as we wanted to be able to give people more information.
My first scan was on January 26, 2009. I finally saw the oncologist on
January 29. I was fully prepared to have the hysterectomy, but he told
us of a new procedure called a trachelectomy that removes the cervix and
upper vaginal canal but leaves the uterus and ovaries in place to
hopefully maintain fertility. This procedure was only done two places in
Canada, so I would have to travel, but he really felt it was the best
option. With the idea that my husband and I always wanted to have more
than one child, we decided to go ahead with the procedure, and the
doctor told us he would get us in within a couple of weeks.
After a week, I still had heard nothing of my impending surgery date,
so I started making phone calls to Toronto (where I had been told I
would be sent). The doctor in Toronto said he would get me in quickly,
and not to worry because cervical cancer is generally a very slow moving
cancer and I had nothing to worry about. His receptionist told me
different stories each day, and said that my situation was very
complicated and there would be no way she could get me in that quickly; I
would just have to wait. Later when I got to Toronto I found out one of
my files was still sitting on her desk and had never even been opened. I
finally got my surgery date for March 12, 2009.
In order to travel to Toronto my family and friends threw a fundraiser
in my honour which raised over $8000! I felt so lucky and truly blessed.
Cancer may be terrible, but I definitely realized how many wonderful
people I had in my life.
When I got to Toronto I had a few days of appointments with various
parts of the Cancer Centre there to get all the information I needed for
the surgery. One was another colposcopy that resulted in the doctor
telling me my tumour had nearly grown to three centimetres, and may be
at the point where he could not do the new procedure, but he wouldn’t
know until he was in surgery. Luckily, he was able to perform the
trachelectomy. I was only supposed to be booked as a day surgery, but
ended up spending three nights in hospital because of complications with
low blood pressure and intense bleeding.
Finally I got to go home and be with my family during my recovery. My
husband had come with me to Toronto, but I had to leave my daughter for
the first time and that was the hardest part of this entire journey.
During my recovery I was not allowed to pick my daughter up for six
weeks, so I had to depend on people to hand her to me. I would rock her
to sleep every night so I still felt like I was being active in her life
(it made for some very bad sleep habits later on though). My mom was
fantastic and took sick leave from work from the time of my surgery
until the time of my final treatments to help take care of me and my
daughter.
A week or so after my surgery, I went in to see my oncologist in
Saskatoon, and he told me that the cancer had spread to my lymph nodes,
which would require radiation and chemotherapy, and also an ovary
suspension to keep my ovaries out of the radiation beams and prevent
early menopause.
I had my ovary suspension April 23, 2009, and had another six weeks of
not being able to lift my daughter. My mom continued to help me, and my
mother-in-law even flew from South Africa to help for two weeks. My
radiation started in the middle of May: 25 rounds, and my chemo at the
same time, five treatments of cisplatin. I was very lucky and didn’t
have a large enough dose of chemo to lose my hair, although it did thin.
Luckily I have very thick hair so no one could tell but me. I completed
my treatments June 18, 2009.
Since finishing my treatments, I continue to see my oncologist now
every four months. There have been a few scares a couple times with
abnormalities arising, and new biopsies being done, but thankfully
everything comes back negative. I have had quite a few trips to the
emergency room as well, for complications arising from my surgery (a few
bleeding episodes, ovarian cysts).
After all is said and done, I have never felt sorry for myself or been
angry that I have cancer, but I do question the decisions that were made
in my treatment. If I were to have to do it again, I don’t think I
would have had the tracheotomy as there are so many complications and
unknowns that have arisen from it, answers that people can’t give me,
and because of the radiation and chemo I can no longer have any more
children. I’m not saying I regret it because I believe we are always
learning from our experiences, I just would’ve done it differently and
want to share my experience with others so they know to educate
themselves with their options instead of just taking the first thing
they are told.
In which hospitals were you treated?
Sunnybrook Cancer Centre, Toronto - Allan Blair Cancer Centre, Saskatoon
At what level of education were you at diagnosis?
Working full-time.
What were your first thoughts when diagnosed?
I am going to beat this; my daughter needs me. I don’t know if I’ve
still ever dealt with the emotion of the diagnosis. I have always felt
like I’m telling people about someone else who has cancer.
How did your family react?
Sad, scared, and supportive. My sister’s best friend died of breast
cancer one month after my diagnosis; she was 31. I think dealing with
that on top of my diagnosis really freaked my family out, although they
never said that to me.
How did your friends react?
My friends were amazing and still are!
What is your current medical status?
Clear, but no one will use the words remission or cancer-free.
How is life different for you now post diagnosis?
I feel like I have a story to share, not just with my cancer
experience, but with the events in my life that I now believe have lead
to my diagnosis. I want to change the world, in a manner of speaking,
and more so I want to change the face of cancer in Canada so it is more
recognized that young adults are being diagnosed more and more every
day. I don’t feel like the petty things in life are worth worrying about
anymore, and I sometimes have trouble being around people who I feel
are negative and have bad energy in a matter of speaking. I like to
surround myself with positive people, with a great energy, as I feel now
more than before that energy from other people affects me more than
ever.
What is the toughest part of your challenge?
I find the waiting in between treatments, and appointments to be the
hardest. I always felt very positive while going through everything, and
like I said, as though someone else was going through it. The time in
between though, I find questions arise about my health and treatment,
that is sometimes hard to deal with; and whenever I have something wrong
with me now there is always the thought that comes to my head—is the
cancer back? I don’t know if that ever goes away.
What was the best lesson you took away from your challenge?
To cherish the time I have with my daughter and to enjoy life more and
try not to stress so much. I don’t know if I’ve lived up to the latter
part of that statement as much as I could, but I had always planned to
go back to work full time after having children. Now I’ve decided to
only work part time, and it was the best decision I ever made. I have
more time with my daughter, more time to do the things I love, and be
with the people I love.
What really motivated you to keep going while you were sick?
My daughter.
What are your thoughts and feelings about your illness now? How have they changed since before your diagnosis?
I feel now, nearly three years after my diagnosis, I am just starting
to deal with the emotions that surround it. I find I want to reach out
more, and find people that have gone through similar experiences, and
get answers from professionals about the treatment of cervical
cancer—answers I maybe should have sought out at the time of my
diagnosis.
What are some preventative measures people can take to lower their risk of having an experience like yours?
Educate yourself, and have an advocate for yourself (family, friend
whoever) that can help you get the information you need to make the
right decisions with your treatment, and make all the critical phone
calls to health centres. You are dealing with enough when you are
diagnosed, it helps to have someone there to deal with the stressful
stuff so you can just relax and concentrate on yourself for a while.
Did you attend any support groups during your challenge?
I did not. I always felt very detached from my diagnosis, and it is
only now that I am trying to connect with people in similar situations. I
am looking to start a support group now in Saskatchewan for young
adults with cancer, as I have since found there is not much in my city
for that.
SAMANTHA PATRICIA MCDOWELL
Name: Samantha Patricia McDowell
Age: I am 24 years old (d.o.b. Aug 3, 1986)
What school did you attend? I graduated from high school (Sir Winston Churchill)
Where do you work? I work in the insurance industry
What is your career goal? My career goal would be to eventually go to school and get accepted into nursing
How did you find out you were sick?
I would consider myself in good health for my age and since I turned 18
I have always had my yearly checkups. I had started to notice random
bleeding after intercourse but didn’t think anything of it. I booked a
physical with my doctor for a pap. It came back irregular (cells) and my
doctor recommended I get a colposcopy to look into it a bit further but
she reassured me I should not be concerned about it. The results came
back early. I will never forget this day and forever hope I’ll never
experience this kind of pain ever again. The doctor that had taken my
tissue sample called me at work and all he said was, “Are you alone? You
have cancer.” I felt my entire world stop and the room started to spin.
Is this the end? And I just broke down.
What year were you diagnosed? How old were you at the time?
I was diagnosed in 2010 and I was 23 years old.
What was your diagnosis?
I was diagnosed with Cervical Cancer stage 1B
What were your thoughts when you were diagnosed?
I instantly thought “this is a bad dream and I will wake up anytime
now.” I just could barely grasp the concept that I—at the age of 23—had
cervical cancer. Seriously, how does one my age cope with this deadly
disease—I am yet to experience life and what it has to offer. Was I
being punished for things that happened in the past? Or does God have
another plan for me once my lifetime is over. All I could do was cry and
cry until I cried myself to sleep night after night. Pure denial.
Depression started to grow on me.
How did your family react?
I had called my mother of who was living in Lethbridge at the time (two
hours away from me). She did not believe me and demanded that she
called the doctor to get the clear story; she just told me I was being
dramatic and I didn’t listen to what the doctor said. Soon enough she
faced the hard facts and put on a smile and told me we’d get through
this together. She’s my hero. My father and siblings where my strongest
support. My dad is as tough as nails and he didn’t even fret, or at
least he didn’t in front of me. I’d talk to him everyday and he’d cheer
me up by giving me positive feedback and just by giving me the boost I
needed to hear. I developed a better relationship with my sister and at
the time one of my brothers finally reached out and supported me.
How did your friends react?
Most of my friend where there for me and a lot of my co-workers helped
out a lot with cards, emails, and calls. I found a few close friends
grew rather distant and also my boyfriend had given up on me in the
midst of healing. You definitely find out who you want in your life when
you get diagnosed and deal with cancer—it’s unfortunate that people
walk out of your life but I understand sometimes it’s a lot to handle
especially when we are young.
What did your treatment consist of?
Finding out what treatment would work best for me was probably the
hardest part because this is the biggest decision I’d ever make in my
life. I couldn’t do this on my own so I had the support of my parents,
my (ex) boyfriend’s mother, myself, and my doctor. We had eventually
decided that chemotherapy for three months (once every three weeks) and
the major surgery, radical tracheotomy. The chemo was to try to clear
out my cells of the bad cancer and the surgery is not common but it
would allow me to have children later in life.
How did you feel?
Chemo seriously knocks the s*** out of you. I had no energy, and I lost
all my hair, so I felt I lost my identity. That, by far, was the
hardest part. Chemo also takes away your strength. I know for a fact I
got extremely bad anxiety and very depressed. It was exactly one week
after my first dose of chemotherapy that my hair started to fall out; I
couldn’t believe this was all happening. As for the surgery, I was not
prepared for this kind of pain. It was the kind of pain that was
unbearable and my poor father had to watch me in that amount of pain,
and yet he was my personal nurse helping me and encouraging me to move.
What hospital were you treated at?
I was treated at the Tom Baker Hospital in Calgary, AB
What is your current health status?
I am currently six months cancer free!
How life is different?
After dealing with the fight of your life you change drastically. I am
still the same person I was before, but I’m A LOT stronger. I try not to
fret on the little things in life and embrace each day at a time. I
feel like I want/need to give back to the community so I joined the
Cancer Society as peer support. I now have a lot more patience and feel I
treat others with more care and compassion.
What was the toughest part of your challenge?
The toughest part was loosing my identity. Cancer stripped me of who I
was. I hated how not only did I have cancer, but my family also had to
deal with it. I could always feel the worry in my mother’s voice and I
remember her coming to my first dose of chemo. All we could do was cry,
cry in fear of the unknown. I always told myself, “I have cancer, it
will NEVER have me.”
What was the best part of your challenge?
The best part of being diagnosed with cancer was the new outlook I have
in life. I have met so many beautiful survivors, nurses, and doctors.
Most people were so humble and kind to me because they could see the
pain and fear I was in. Cancer forever has changed my life, and I feel
it’s for the best.
What motivated you to keep going?
I was motivated by my friends & family. My family was my #1 support
system and was there for me when I was down and would always cheer me
up. I had a blog that they all read every single day and commented on
issues I was struggling with. I have the most amazing family and feel so
blessed.
What are some preventative measures people can take to avoid an experience like yours?
I was one of the few women that had HPV and for whatever reason this
formed into cancer. I truly wish they had more education about this
virus.
Did you attend any support groups?
I attended a lot of support groups at the Wellness Center in Calgary.
My favorite part was the beauty class where we all were taught how to
apply makeup when we had no hair and eyelashes, etc. The smile on these
women’s faces after the makeup was applied was priceless. I felt normal
with all these women for the first time in months.
HOLLY LE TUAL
Age: 28
Hometown: St. John's, Newfoundland
Do you work?
I am working as an IT Business Analyst for a Satellite Communications Company, here in St. John's.
How did you find out you were sick?
I simply went for my yearly checkup with my family doctor. At the
time, I had no idea anything was wrong, no symptoms of cancer and I felt
I was in perfect health.
What year was it?What was your age at the time? 2008, I was 27
What was your diagnosis? Cervical Cancer
What were your first thoughts when diagnosed?
I think everyone is scared when they hear the "C" word. My first
thoughts were wondering how bad it was and if it had already spread to
any of my organs.
How did your family react?
My family was worried, but very supportive! They were with me every
step of the way. My parents helped with my children, and my boyfriend
kept me smiling and laughing everyday.
How did your friends react?
I have a very large circle of friends. My Friends at work and in my
networks were amazing! Everyone was very encouraging and very
supportive.
What did your treatment consist of?
My treatment consisted of several biopsies, laser treatment and eventually a hysterectomy.
What is your current medical status? Cancer Free!
What was the toughest part of your challenge?
I'd say the toughest part was having people worry about me. It's hard to see your parents upset.
What was the best part about having your challenge? You learn to appreciate your health and to not take things for granted!
What really motivated you to keep going while you were/are sick?
While I was going to appointments and resting up after surgeries, my
children kept me going. They're awesome. No matter how tired I was, or
whatever else was going on, I was still their mom! They read me stories
while I was resting, and bought me snacks. They definitely kept me
smiling and happy!
What lessons or messages have you taken away from your experience? Live! Just enjoy every day like it's your last!
What are some (if there are any you know of) preventative measures
that people can take to lower their risk of having an experience like
yours?
Never ever skip your yearly check up! Women take that for granted and
think there's nothing wrong if you're feeling ok. I've been pushing all
my friends to keep up with their checkups and to never assume anything
because you really just don't know.